Go upstream and find the source! What is the root cause for the repetitive behavior? #fallingin #goupstream #askthetoughquestions#answerthedifficultones #stoptgesurfaceleveltalk #realtalk#speaktotherootissue #gethealed #straightenmycrown
Have you lost your mind?
Or have you lost control of your mind?
It seems you can’t get yourself out of the entrapment of your own thoughts. You allow guilt to speak…to scream louder than grace.
What or who have you surrendered your thoughts to? Who is the one controlling your mind?
Could it be that you are allowing guilt to be the decision maker. Fear to be the driving force as to whether you take something on. Shame to be the very thing that leads you into isolation. The feeling of loosing all control…loosing your mind…it’s almost unbearable. You feel completely alone in this prison but in all actuality…you aren’t. There are just so many that seem to be in this same prison. It is overwhelming.
The thing is…if you were to push past guilt, fear…the shame past the threshold of that prison door, that is actually wide open, there is freedom waiting. A freedom, where the Lord will impart to you the very thing that will bring you out of those thoughts. He will bring you out of the prison that those thoughts hold you to.
Is it really the enemy keeping you in there? You seem to be the one that is keeping yourself from stepping over the threshold of His grace. Who’s your real enemy in this season? Who is keeping you from being the receiver of the very grace that was meant to empower you. Think about it…who have you handed this power over to?
Grace is not just undeserved favor, it is also the operational power of God. It gives you the ability to do what you could not do before.
Remember, Mercy is not getting what you deserve.
Grace is getting what you don’t deserve. When you receive something you don’t deserve, it typically ignites something in you to steward it well. Receiving grace, is your first step to believing in you. It is your first step of you loving you, and you receiving love. Steward the gift of grace well…allow it to empower you to step out of the entrapment of your thoughts!
Let’s be clear…Grace is not supplied to stay in sin, but imparted to you, for you to come out of sin!
“But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong. I have been a fool! You forced me to it, for I ought to have been commended by you. For I was not at all inferior to these super-apostles, even though I am nothing. The signs of a true apostle were performed among you with utmost patience, with signs and wonders and mighty works.”
2 Corinthians 12:9-12
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YOUR’RE DIFFERENT! And it was intentional.
My friends…please consider this. There are those of you, that are just different…who were never meant to fit in. Maybe the Lord never intended you to blend in with the crowd. I might suggest that He truly did set you apart. Could it be that you were meant to stand out? Could it be that this whole time, He was developing a heart in you to truly connect…to reach the outcast and downtrodden? You will find, to your surprise that this development will not only extend to the outcasts and misfits but to the people in high places of authority, prominence or influence. This development is to reach any and all people who are wandering in despair over the lack of real and true connection.
From conception…before you were in your mother’s womb, the intent was for you to be different. The mold was not duplicated. He intended for you to stand out. He intended for you to stir up conversation, cause second glances, for people to question why you were different.
Could it be that He is calling out His sons and daughter for such a time as this? It is time of new and different! He’s calling you out to love so deeply and so differently, there will be some that just don’t know what to do with you.
And this whole time you thought something was wrong with you…when really you were just called to greatness. This whole time, the very thing that was different about you was actually being celebrated in a realm you couldn’t see. Rise up sons and daughters…it is time! It is time for different! He’s not doing the same thing, He is doing a different thing. Take honor in that…get out of your way…get in THE WAY, THE TRUTH, THE LIFE…allow Him to use you!
‘ Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you].’
‘But you are the ones chosen by God, chosen for the high calling of priestly work, chosen to be a holy people, God’s instruments to do his work and speak out for him, to tell others of the night-and-day difference he made for you—from nothing to something, from rejected to accepted. But you are the ones chosen by God, chosen for the high calling of priestly work, chosen to be a holy people, God’s instruments to do his work and speak out for him, to tell others of the night-and-day difference he made for you—from nothing to something, from rejected to accepted.’
1 Peter 2:9-10
Peace is attainable.
So many are in transition right now and have been for some time. I believe that breakthrough is coming! The feeling of uncertainty, abandonment, anxiousness, and feeling lost, tends to take over in the quiet moments. These are not moments to avoid and/or ignore.
Take a second…hide away…don’t hide from your feelings. Go to your closet, your car, for a walk…anything. Allow yourself to process. Take a breath. You control your thoughts. They are not governed by anything you don’t give authority to. In other words, your thought are controlled by whatever you give authority to.
Track your thoughts on how you got there. How did you get to this end thought? What sparked the trail you went down? Ask God to show you where this all started. Open up that line of communication. He patiently waits for you to come to Him. He does not force His way in. He is a Gentleman. Find your safe place with Him. Ask Him for one.
We so often look at peace as an emotion or feeling. It is a very physical, living, breathing, presence. He is the Prince of Peace. His very presence is where we are able to attain Peace.
End all be all, is it grounded in love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control? If it isn’t…then it needs to be. You get that option. You get to choose. You get to decide what you think on. You get to control your thoughts…even when they feel out of control. The devil has worked very hard to convince you otherwise. You are not what you feel. Those are indicators to what is going. Your feelings are not bad. They are there to bring your attention to something that needs to be addressed.
What are they revealing to you? How can you use those feelings to overcome?
Again…take a breath…breathe! You are going to be ok. Even if you don’t feel ok yet, or all the time for that matter. It is totally normal. Peace is attainable.
‘But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. ‘
CITIZENSHIP – I woke up this morning with the word “citizenship” in my head. It was as if someone…Someone was yelling it at me. It was so clear and loud, I almost leaped out of bed and yelled it. Although, I laid there awake and still…waiting on the rest. Most of the time, I will jump out of bed and go write it down but this time, I laid still and waited.
As I laid there the Lord showed me everyone walking about the planet and no matter where they were, they had a floating flag above their head. There were some (flags) that glowed and some did not. I kept hearing the word “wanderers.” I immediately thought, “Ah, those who’s flags are not glowing are wanderers.” I felt a correction in that moment, and He began to point out how even those with a glowing flag, were wandering. Why was that?
The Lord then brought me to “adoption” and partnered it to citizenship. We are adopted (glowing) into the citizenship of Heaven.
“But [we are different because] our citizenship is in heaven. And from there we eagerly await [the coming of] the Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ; who by exerting that power which enables Him even to subject everything to Himself [not only] transform [but completely refashion] our earthly bodies so that they will be like His glorious resurrected body.”
~ Philippians 3:20-21
Each person was his or hers own nation or colony. We are all nations and there are some nations that have even been discovered and adopted but yet…are still wandering. There are “glowing” (adopted)…yet wandering nations.
‘ When you were few in number, of little account, and sojourners in it, wandering from nation to nation, from one kingdom to another people, he allowed no one to oppress them; he rebuked kings on their account, saying, “Touch not my anointed ones, do my prophets no harm!”‘
~ 1 Chronicles 16:19-22
This is your season of adoption. No more sojourning! In your season of discovering the lay of the land, He has protected you and kept you from harms way. He has allowed no one to take you down because in this season, He has prepared you to walk confidently in what He has called you to do! He has prepared you to walk confidently in who you are and Who’s you are.
“You keep trying to chart out your journey by comparing one map to another. This is uncharted territory, that was created specifically for you! It is time to stop wandering from nation to nation, because I have made each nation in it’s own light and I am your only Compass. The lay of the land within each colony is completely different, you cannot expect the same journey as another!
You have been a radiant, glowing nation!! Although often times not seen it or felt it. IT IS TIME! It is time for you to understand as I understand, see as I see, feel as I feel, speak as I speak…to LOVE as I love! It is time for you to “RISE UP, OH NATIONS!!!! As I have called you! You are My anointed ones, journey into my extravagant love and unmerited favor! I love you so!!!”
There is a shift coming. If we are not postured for it, we will miss it and yet not even know we missed it. His divine presence, His Shekinah glory is hovering, just as it did in Ezekiel…waiting on His church to respond to His very visible presence…His glory.
He is waiting to take His church into a new time (an indefinite progress). “New”…meaning, never seen before. Something that is NOT created by man. He is waiting…hovering to take His church into a deeper awareness of Him. A deeper awareness of His immeasurable excellence…His righteousness…His holiness. There is a posture to take to receive this shift. It is a posture of willingness and obedience. A willingness to pursue a knowledge of Him that some see as unattainable for themselves. A willingness to make Him our main Priority in life. To be intentional and where He becomes a very organic part of our life. Where He begins to harmoniously fit together in life, as a necessary part of a whole…making His people whole…bringing reconciliation to holiness amongst His people.
This willingness & obedience is not governed by time, emotions, circumstances, prior commitments, or seasons. This willingness is an abandonment of all pride, be it in the form of self preservation, fault-finding, superficiality, defensiveness, desperation for attention, or even presumptuous thoughts.
He has brought His people into a season of slow…a season of solitude…anonymity. A season some crucial players are not understanding because they are too busy and feel if they stop doing, nothing will get done. When it is in this season, the Lord will reveal all that He will do in a state of our true surrender. This is not a slowing of just doing, but a slowing of the mind. He desires to teach us how to track our thoughts. A surrender of the mind and thoughts. He desires to give His people new sight. We are going into 2020…that is 20/20 vision…a year of new sight….clear sight of themselves and those around them.
He desires to reshape and redefine the culture of the church. Where the culture is thick, it is one He did not authorize. It is a worldly culture that has manipulated it’s ways through the doors of the church, where it is no longer recognized as wrong but chalked up and laughed off as being just the way things are. The phrase “boys will be boys” comes to mind. When raising boys, they do things that while might be inappropriate at times, the world says are just part of being a boy. Although, they do things naturally that can be inappropriate or rough, does that mean as parents we disregard, do not address or correct just because the world has defined that behavior as part of being a boy. The parent has the option to reshape that culture and to teach how to treat people within their home. To hold their son to a higher standard, a holy standard…set apart. To teach what is good and right and true in the eyes of God. ——>Ephesians 5:1-21<——
I heard…“My people continue to set up idols in their heart. They keep toying and playing with sin, yet at the same time wanting to be a men and women of God. They go through rituals every Sunday putting up a false front, yet they have false idols in their heart. Anything put before Me is an idol…ANYTHING put before Me is a god. I am waiting on you to abandon all idols and approach the mercy seat.”
He is a patient God. He is a jealous God. If we do not take the posture to respond to Him, His Shekinah glory will depart and His hand will lift.
We rise when we kneel. We go to that new level…not the next level…a new level…one never obtained before. We are to go from glory to glory…strength to strength.
God is a generational and relational God…His Word is written generationally and relationally. I might suggest, He is trying to get us to look at how the culture in areas has impacted the church generationally and relationally. To slow down an see the pattern, address generational curses and blessings as a whole but as individuals as well. These are the very things that ignite legacies and destinies with His people. It is an unearthing and understanding of a deeper identity and awareness within. It is a teaching of self awareness and an awareness of His presence.
Church, could it be that in our season of wait, we have just not? That the Lord has actually had us, the church body, in a very long season of wait but we have just not had the health to feel or vision to see it? We have allowed ourselves to be so overcome by busy-ness, doing, and going at such a high rates of speed, that our sight has been blurred and our health has been compromised? That in the moments we have felt an increase in heart rate, or what we thought was excitement and eagerness, it was actually a warning sign that something unhealthy was happening?
Could it be that our eagerness for what or who is next has trumped what God really desires us to wait on…only prolonging this season of wait? Only prolonging growth, and I don’t mean in size. In our eagerness to fill the spots that were empty, we have promoted or self promoted, when God did not authorize that promotion. Those spots weren’t meant to be filled with what man put there. Those spots weren’t actually empty, they were filled with something so divine, that it could be seen or understood by man.
Maybe we saw the potential for leadership and mistaken it for the character of leadership?
In the past, we have been to the Great Physician and had our examination, insuring that all the moving parts are as they should be. Functioning and operating like a fine oiled machine. Now we are afraid to take it before the Physician, we are in denial of what’s really happening. We are afraid to get the not-so-excellent report back. All the while, the appearance on the inside is not what it looks like on the outside.
Have we done the FULL examination of our body? What’s the condition of the heart? Maybe it’s not beating at full capacity or as healthy as we thought? Is there an undetected murmur? An irregular heartbeat?
Have we had an examination of the eyes? Are we squinting just to get by with same prescription we’ve always had. We are leaning in just enough to make out a form of what we think should be there and going with that. Has our vision been so blurred? Has it been so blurred that we have possibly missed something or mistaken something for what isn’t? Maybe we not seen what truly is ailing us.
Church, the Lord is giving you new vision…He is slowly revealing His 20/20 vision. He desires to give you that new vision. He is and has been speaking to a blurred vision. He is allowing you to see what has been blurred or missed…what has not been Kingdom vision…or the heartbeat of the Kingdom. Posture yourselves! Go to the Great Physician and allow Him to give you new spectacles and a healthy heartbeat!
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Here’s the thing, if you don’t have people that you are willing to be completely vulnerable with, you won’t grow. Who challenges you? Who champions you for change? You won’t grow, until you are willing to talk about what needs to change. Change must occur in order to grow. In order to have change, you must be willing to loose something and you must be willing to evaluate the past. Without those two things, there will be no growth. Growth is change. The word “change” scares people, because of the loss of whatever it is that is normal for them. When you know something needs to change, there is a grieving or for some, even a fear of loosing whatever will be lost.
The thing about change is, we not only experience the loss of something, but we are left actually feeling lost and abandoned, possibly even rejected. We are left trying to grab hold of anything stable or familiar. It is as if we are floating there, grasping at whatever we can. It is in that moment, that we have a choice of how we will deal with the pain that comes with any type of loss. What is our perspective in those moments of reeling over that pain, feeling as if we will fall apart if we look at the things that are deep within us? Eventually, the things that are deep down inside will rise to the top. How willing are we to embrace this pain that comes with being so vulnerable? And in the end, what do we grip onto to stop (what seems to be) the endless reeling over the thoughts that come with the loss and pain of change? In this moment of choosing to face change or not, we are truly at the cusp of our most vulnerable posture. It is here, where most people stop. It is here, where most allow the fear of pain to take over.
See, your threshold of pain will determine you growth. In other words, the amount of pain you are willing to deal with, will determine your level of growth. Your growth to being vulnerable is your gain. What you gain with being vulnerable is real relationship…real connection. Just as Shawn said in Jesus’ most vulnerable moment, through His Spirit, He connected us to the Father in a real way. A most tangible way, that is eternal and everlasting.
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Growing up I was often described by those that know me best, as outspoken, passionate, and sometimes even dramatic. I am not the quietest and most meek of women. I also have a difficult time withholding the truth from people, so I tend to speak with realness and truth…some might call that bluntness. I have often been told I am intimidating and carry a presence of confidence with me that makes women (and men) scared of me. Those things are the last two things I want people to see or pick up on when interacting with me. Confidence has been a journey for me and I have never gotten to the point of being fully confident in myself. Although, by His amazing grace, I have gotten to the point of complete confidence in God, which makes it so much easier to surrender myself over to Him day after day. I have learned that is the only way I function at my best…when He has all of me. The times I don’t surrender all of me, are the times when conflict comes.
As a child and young woman, (just like anyone else) I had a process to dealing with conflict or just relational issues in general. For example, my mom and dad always impressed upon the importance of Ephesians 4:26-27, which says “’Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.” I understood early on, why this was important. This is not only talking about going to bed angry, but letting time pass in anger. Staying in your anger towards someone or something, leaves the door open for the enemy to inject other feelings and emotions into the equation. So staying angry even as a child was something I was very conscious and aware of.
As a teenager, it was not that I would stay angry for long but rather that I was quick with my words and passionate about my message. I found that conflict would escalate quickly, because of my passion, not to mention my unbridled issue with lack of humility. The older I got and the more I experienced in life, the more I became a expert in the subject…whatever subject that may be. I knew it all and had been through it all, or so I thought. I mean good grief, by the time I was 21 years old, I had given birth to my first child, bought first house, bought my first car, and was battling a very unstable and volatile marriage to a alcoholic and drug addict. It was not long before I was a single mom, putting myself through night school. It was due to what I was accomplishing through such a turbulent and volatile season in my life, that I thought I was expert on every subject. When talking to other women in similar positions, I began to take this “put on your big girl panties” approach. This was the beginning of my passion overriding my compassion. If other women I encountered were not performing from a standpoint of victory or “I can do this”, it would eat me up. Often, as a result, the more passionate I was on subjects, the more I would intimidate or blur over my intended message. One of the hardest things for me in life, has been learning how to balance my passion and compassion.
Experiencing the cross, brought me to a whole new subject matter. It has been a game changer. Understanding the cross, has made me a completely new person. I am madly in love with a compassionate God. Although now, there is the issue of my passion for God overwhelming my delivery of compassion for people. The more He reveals to me, the more passionate I get about the freedom that comes with that revelation. Each time, I experience a whole new level of freedom and want to share that with others. The balance of allowing God to tame the passion and provide the compassion is an intense process. The times that I have realized the passionate message I am trying to get across has resulted in hurt for that person, has brought me to tears. It absolutely breaks my heart to know that the result can go against every one of my intentions of building them up and encouraging them to be the strong woman I know they can be.
When I fell in love with Jesus, His passions very quickly became my passions. His compassion on the other hand, has been a bit of a challenge to obtain. I had to learn that without an understanding of His love and compassion towards me, I had an underlining competition with others, a fear of rejection or an offense that would come in. There was a serious fear of man. My fear of living up to man’s standards and even my own standards, was greater to me, than living up to God’s standards. I realized I was not developing deep, lasting and meaningful relationships because my perspective of others, is mirrored by my perspective of myself. I was looking at others through the same lens that I was looking at myself with.
God wanted me to see myself through a completely different lens…a heavenly lens. He wanted me to operate from this lens of grace and love with every word I spoke and every action I took. God wanted me to see myself how He sees me…with a heavenly perspective. I realized that if my words for myself are not laced with compassion, love and grace then it defeats every point of the cross. It is the love and grace that Christ brought to the cross that empowers us to walk from wholeness, speak from wholeness and operate from a standpoint of wholeness….to operate from HOLINESS.
One morning He began to speak to me about His creation. He told me that when He created me, He simultaneously created His Kingdom purpose in me and that is what He sees in me. He then revealed that this applies to all His children and this is how I am to look at His children…my brothers and sisters in Christ. To also keep in mind, our life is a journey of Him molding and shaping us to expose that Kingdom purpose.
He wants our words for others, to begin to peel away at the layers of the shell that contains this Kingdom purpose. Our words, should build up and edify others to shed that old skin and reveal the new. Because the enemy loves to inject that underlining competition with others, that fear of rejection or that offense anywhere he can with women, it is important that we be very intentional with our words. We also have to be willing to receive reproof. The Bible says in Proverbs 12:1, “Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is stupid.” I know what your thinking…”OH, well since the Bible says my friend, who did not accept my wisdom is stupid, let me just give her a call and tell her that even the Bible says she is stupid!” No my dear, that is not the case. It also says in a couple of chapters later, (in Proverbs 15: 1) “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but hard words stir up anger.”
In Philippians, Paul points out that Euodia and Syntyche (sisters in the church) who found it difficult to love each other, needed “to settle their disagreement and be restored with one mind in our Lord” (Philippians 4:2-3). To get our point across, our words should not always be disguised in tough shell of passion and urgency but laced with love and compassion for our sister’s growth. While some of our relationships are awesome, refreshing and challenging, often times there are those that are difficult, exhausting, stretching and sometimes even draining. It is in those difficult moments, even moments of conflict, that we are to put on the spectacles of God and look through His lens. It is only through those lens, that our passion for the subject no longer overrides our compassion His people. It is through those lens, we obtain balance of the passion and compassion of Christ.